This morning, after finding two baby annnouncements in my e-mail—one of which involved twins born to a woman several years older than I am—I finally read the Cornell web site. I was shaking by the time I went to pick up the phone. It's wonderful they care so much about their male factor program! But, will they insist on cutting open Beaker's balls again?
Only to find out: I have to pick a doctor before anything else can happen, even over the phone. So I need to read more of their web site. And I may go off to the bulletin boards, which have about the same soul-sucking effect on me as dementors do on Harry. Waaaaah.
I guess you are thinking about IVF, are you? I've been reading your blog on and off and I can see that we share a common drama: infertility. My wife would know better, but I think Cornell is indeed an excellent, if expensive place.
I just want to let you know that after 5 years of work, 3 fertility clinics, 4 IVFs, plus frozen transferts, we have a little baby called Lohan (http://www.ondelette.com/lohan/).
5 years of hard work, all our savings, some very unconfortable procedures may seem like a lot. It is a lot. Especially since you don't know if you are ever going to succeed, but if you do, then it is all worth it.
I would most definitively encourage people to give it all they've got. The most important thing is to go to the best clinic you can afford, even if it means flying accross the country. We had to fly all the way to Calgary, Canada. We had to delay buying a house. We had to do many unpleasant things. But now, I come back home and there is a little boy waiting for me. Sometimes I feel like crying. Sometimes, I'm at work, or taking the bus, and I just get scared that maybe, maybe, Lohan is dead or dying. I'm psychologically damaged for life... but this little boy is so very precious.
Only infertile couples can know how precious a little boy can be.
Posted by: Daniel Lemire | Tuesday, June 15, 2004 at 08:23 PM