I need to say this now
Before it's too late, before my ever growing bitterness becomes infinite: I am glad we changed clinics.
Cornell ran my stims completely differently (different drugs, tapering down instead of ramping up, far fewer days). They got good fertilization for the few mature eggs they managed to get (100%, vs. 25% for the 2nd cycle at my old clinic). The cell counts at 3 days were much better; co-culture, perhaps? Or just a different lab? They didn't ultrasound-guide the transfer, removing a giant source of unnecessary stress (my cervix is easy, folks, and my bladder is the size of a walnut, and I got my very first UTI when I was catheterized after my first transfer at the old clinic). The lower PIO dose is freaky, but my butt hurts a lot less.
And, the staff were consistently professional and encouraging. I admit that I was worried about some of the cattle-call stuff I'd read about. But, when the crowds were big, I remembered that I was there precisely because they're a huge clinic, and that you always always always want to be treated by people who do nothing but take care of your kind of problem, all day long, every day, for years and years and years.
If we had cycled at our local clinic again, and failed there again, I would have had doubts that I don't think I'll have after changing. (Of course, I'd have another $8000 or so, too.) (And, of course, there are still plenty of other doubts left over for me to enjoy.)
I'm certainly not claiming that Cornell will always be the best for everybody. But IVF is still an art more than a science, and going someplace different will get you a different treatment philosophy. Whether it's more or less suited to your peculiar biology, well, who can ever know? But it's something I needed to do.
I'm so sorry, my friend.
Let me know if there's anything I can do.
Posted by: getupgrrl | Thursday, December 16, 2004 at 11:51 PM
Whoops! Sorry; my verbs tenses did get clotted up there. So far I've just been stabbed for luteal bloodwork; the day for my anticipated post-beta infinite bitterness is Monday.
Posted by: Emma Jane | Friday, December 17, 2004 at 10:17 AM
Well, hell, woman! Why didn't you say so?
I now formally retract all prior condolences.
Posted by: getupgrrl | Friday, December 17, 2004 at 11:02 AM
I totally agree. We need Dr. Schlegel for surgery every time. When we first met with him we felt like we had been in a cave for our first four cycles. He is years ahead of his colleagues for male surgery. And the rest of it? While personally I am more ignored, those calling the shots are the best. I'm glad you said this now, but I do hope you'll be even happier on Monday!
Posted by: Bella | Friday, December 17, 2004 at 04:12 PM
I will keep all my bits crossed for you this weekend. I'm glad you felt like you had a better experience. Yeah!
Posted by: Cecily | Friday, December 17, 2004 at 04:52 PM
Wishing good things for you, my friend.
Posted by: Brooklyn Girl | Saturday, December 18, 2004 at 09:31 AM
A consistently professional and encouraging staff? That's virtually unheard of in the RE business. Where can I sign up?
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Posted by: Morgan | Monday, January 10, 2005 at 10:07 AM